Every once in a while, life gives us small moments that stay with us forever. A few days ago, I had one of those moments—something so simple, yet so powerful that I knew I must write it down, not just for myself, but for my youngest son, who may read this someday when he is older.
We were on an IMO video call. As usual, he was full of stories from school—his friends, his teachers, and the little adventures that make childhood shine. He mentioned the name of one of his classmates, and I casually asked, “Is he a good boy?”
“Yes,” my son said with his usual confidence. “He is the class monitor.”
Curious, I asked with a smile, “Don’t you want to be the class monitor one day? You’re second in the class—you can do it.”
He immediately said, “No.”
My wife was next to him during the call, and both of us were surprised. So I gently asked, “Why, putha? What is the reason?”
He thought for a moment, then replied with such honesty and innocence that it made me speechless:
“I don’t want to be bossy.”
Such simple words. Such deep wisdom.
At just seven years old, my son showed me something that many adults still struggle to understand: leadership is not about being above others; it is about being kind, humble, and considerate. He wasn’t afraid of responsibility or recognition. He was simply sensitive to how he treats people.
That is a rare and beautiful quality.
My son, if you ever read this when you are older, I want you to know something:
You don’t need a title to be a leader.
You don’t need a badge or a position to shine.
Real leadership begins in the heart—not in authority, but in empathy.
And you already have that.
One day, you may become a leader in your career, your family, or your community. Or you may choose a different path that brings you joy. Whatever you choose, hold on to this kindness. Hold on to this gentle strength. Hold on to this understanding that leadership is not about being “bossy,” but about caring for others.
As your father, I could not be more proud.
That small moment on a video call reminded me that children often teach us more than we teach them. And you, my son, with your innocent honesty, reminded me of the importance of humility and compassion.
May you always remain the warm-hearted boy who spoke those words.
And may your kindness guide you in everything you do.
With all my love,
Your father.